Dear Cuby and Sansan,
Merry Christmas 🎄🎅⛄🎁❄️🎶
I hope you’re having a very Merry Christmas with people who you love and also love you back. I hope they care about you as much as I do. I hope they give you presents under the tree. I hope you wake up in Christmas pyjamas and a Santa hat. I hope you watch You’ve Got Mail with a hot chocolate.
✨ YOU are SPECIAL ✨
On this magical holiday I’d like to remind you that YOU are special. You have hobbies, passions, and goals that are unique and important. And if you don’t know them yet, then reach out, explore different fields, and figure out what YOU like. If that’s going to university to explore, then apply. If that’s getting a job, then apply. If that’s traveling the world, then save up and book your ticket. You don’t have to be GOOD at it immediately, you just need to have an interest and then PURSUE it aggressively. Persistence and consistency on something you enjoy will bring you success and happiness, and that’s all I want for you.
Never change your North Star for others 🌟
Don’t change your passions and goals for someone else, especially not for boys. Boys come and go, they don’t dictate your life. Having a partner is one of the most emotionally gratifying things in life, you can and should alter some things in life to learn to become a team, but never change your North Star for them. If that’s something you need to do, then they aren’t right for you. Your right partner would only support your North Star.
How to get a boy 🙋♂️
If you want to know how to get a boy, it’s really easy, boys like a girl with CONFIDENCE. So invest in yourself, and work hard on something you’re passionate about. When you have some amount of success in something you enjoy, you’ll start to gain confidence, and when you gain confidence, the boys will come. So don’t hunt for boys, that’s not worth your time. When you work on yourself and you love yourself, the RIGHT boy will appear. The right boy loves that you love yourself, he loves that you work on something you’re passionate about, he loves you for being 100% you.
Be YOURSELF, and love it 🥰😍
Don’t be someone else for someone. I know you two are good at acting, because it feels good to be someone else, someone exotic, someone that isn’t you. But please don’t do that to people you care about, because then they will only know you as that “someone else”, and you’ll never be able to be YOURSELF. Learn to be yourself, and learn to be content with that. YOU are your best friend, YOU will always be there for YOU.
It’s ok that people come and go 👋
Just like how boys come and go, friends come and go. That’s the process of life, it’s completely normal. In fact, it’s good that that happens, because you’re learning who you like to be with and who you don’t like to be with. It’s like working, you’ll switch between a couple of jobs, each time learning what you like and don’t like. You’ll learn which types of work you like/dislike, which kind of bosses you like/dislike, what kind of environment you like/dislike, it’s all important. And soon you’ll know exactly what kind of job or friend you like, and when you do, hold on for dear life.
But something that will never go is family 👩👧👦👭
But something that will never go is family. Family will be there for you always. Blood is thicker than water. But please don’t abuse family, we feel hurt from some of your actions, and you might feel ashamed of it too. But never let that shame fog your eyesight and make you think that we don’t love you. Because we do and always will, love you. It takes courage to come back and apologize, but know that it will be received and reciprocated. We are always waiting for you, and we love you.
One thing I beg for 🙏
If there is one thing I beg for, it is not that you become friends with me again, that is only my dream. One thing I beg that you try to do is have a relationship with Mommy again. She loves you more than anything in the world, she thinks about you constantly, and she talks about you ALL THE TIME. She literally birthed you, so idk how else to explain her unconditional love for you. She loves you WAY more than I ever will. And, well, she’s not getting any younger. Please try to make memories with her, it will make her so so happy even if she doesn’t show it like Hollywood would. It will also give you something to look back on for years to come.
My Christmas wish 🎄
My Christmas wish is that one day we will all be together, the 4 of us with mommy, for Christmas. We’ll have a big hearty dinner, sleep in matching pyjamas and Santa hats, sing carols loudly while dancing, and open presents in the morning under the tree. We’ll have a true ChristYmas together. And afterwards, we’ll keep in touch and have monthly meetups and annual family trips. We’ll be a strong team and be there for each other when we face difficulties. It’s not you vs me, it’s us vs the problem.
My Christmas present to you 🎁
My Christmas present to you is to read this book: The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter—And How to Make the Most of Them Now. We are all in our twenties, and I’ve gotten a lot of clarity after reading this book. I hope it defines and untangles struggles for you and steers you back on track.
Merry ChristYmas! 👩👧👦👭🎄🎅⛄🎁❄️🎶
Love,
BB
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